The bedrock of all relationships is communication; yet, the ability to do so isn’t intrinsic to our natures. We must learn to become proficient in it.
CHAPTER 1 – “THE POWER OF THE WORD.”
Introduction and History.
Topics include: The power of communication and of the tongue, could speech evolve, the role communication plays in relationships, and the purpose and aim of this book.
CHAPTER 2 – “NOBODY LIKES ME!”
All our relationship failures are communication failures.
Topics include: Methods and techniques to open up to others, developing true friendships through communication, and methods to establish and keep meaningful relationships.
CHAPTER 3 – “WE NEVER TALK!”
Establishing good communication lines.
Topics include: Methods and techniques to develop consistent and healthy lines of communication in relationships and to open up dialogues between two people where communication is lacking.
CHAPTER 4 – “STICKS AND STONES…”
The power of words to build or destroy the spirit.
Topics include: The power of words to build or injure people’s spirit, and methods and techniques to help people heal from a wounded or broken spirit.
CHAPTER 5 – “I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY!”
Communication methods and techniques.
Topics include: Various methods and techniques to draw people into a conversation when you aren’t sure what to say, and retaining open communication lines in difficult and adverse situations.
CHAPTER 6 – “UM…UH…WELL UH…”
Topics include: Various methods and techniques on expressing your emotions, fears, desires, cares, and love, tips and suggestions on how to better express yourself, and how to establish an essential base of relation in your communication.
CHAPTER 7 – “I JUST PUT MY FOOT IN MY MOUTH, DIDN’T I?”
Using the Right Words for the Right Situation
Topics include: Principles on knowing when and where you should say something, and how to make good word choice decisions for a give situation.
CHAPTER 8 – “I DON’T WANT TO HEAR THIS RIGHT NOW!”
The Influence of Timing and Atmosphere in Communication
Topics include: Methods and techniques on developing a good atmosphere and good timing so that your words will be received, and how to give your words more influence and pull.
CHAPTER 9 – “YOU DON’T KNOW WHEN TO SHUT UP, DO YOU?”
Controlling Your Tongue
Topics include: Principles and techniques on controlling your tongue, principles to reign in pride and ego, and dealing with the consequences of speaking in anger.
CHAPTER 10 – “WHAT DID YOU JUST CALL ME?”
Dealing with Cussing and Name Calling
Topics include: God’s attitude towards profanity, a better understanding of profanity and name calling, and how to handle being cussed at or called a derogatory name.
CHAPTER 11 – “BUT THAT’S NOT WHAT YOU SAID…”
Your Words Can Haunt You
Topics include: Common ways our words haunt us, the consequences of breaking promises, and the why it is easier to live an action down than our words.
CHAPTER 12 – “WILL YOU JUST LISTEN TO ME!”
The Essential Art of Listening and Accepting the Other’s Point of View
Topics include: Methods and techniques to learn to listen well, and how to accept other people’s point of view. There is no other communication or social skill that is more necessary.
CHAPTER 13 – “WE CAN’T AGREE ON ANYTHING!”
Handling Arguments and Disagreements
Topics include: Methods and techniques on how to handle and deal with arguments and disagreements, trigger words to avoid arguments, how to disagree without arguing, and how to get everyone to agree on the solution.
CHAPTER 14 – “YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND!”
Topics include: Techniques on solving misunderstanding, how and why misunderstandings occur, and how to avoid misunderstandings.
CHAPTER 15 – “DON’T TELL ME WHAT TO DO!”
Giving and Taking Correction and Rebuke
Topics include: How to handle being corrected, techniques in proper correcting and rebuking, and how to keep relationships strong when you must correct or rebuke.
CHAPTER 16 – “DID YOU HEAR ABOUT SO AND SO?”
When it is Gossip and When it is Not
Topics include: Understanding the nature of a gossip, the dangers of gossip, how to deal with gossip, and knowing when talking about someone else is and is not gossip.
CHAPTER 17 – “TALK TO THE HAND”
Getting People to Listen to You
Topics include: Understanding why people may or may not want to listen, developing the right attitude and communication skills that people would want to listen to, and how to draw someone into a conversation.
CHAPTER 18 – “YOU PROMISED!”
Topics include: How your words define you more than your actions, God’s perspective on a spoken word, dangers of not keeping your word, and the problem of not wishing to commit to anything.
CHAPTER 19 – “I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU JUST SAID THAT!”
Bluntness and Tactfulness
Topics include: Principles of tactfulness and being blunt, knowing when to be tactful and when to be blunt, and learning how to be tactful.
CHAPTER 20 – “HONEST! I’M TELLING THE TRUTH!”
Dealing with Liars and Exaggerators
Topics include: Understanding the nature of a lie, the many ways we lie, the reasons we lie, the nature of exaggeration, and how to handle being lied to.
CHAPTER 21 – “WHAT? DON’T I HAVE A SAY?”
Communication Control and Compromise
Topics include: Understanding why people seek to control relationships with their words, how to deal with it, and how to compromise.
CHAPTER 22 – “NO OFFENSE TAKEN”
Not Allowing Another’s Words to Offend You
Topics include: Principles and techniques to handle offensive language, how to not get offended, and keeping a good spirit under a verbal attack.
CHAPTER 23 – “OOO! THAT WAS A GOOD ONE!”
Taking the Worth Out of Criticism and Insults
Topics include: Understanding the nature of criticism, the difference between correction and criticism, how to handle criticism, and how to handle and deal with insults.
CHAPTER 24 – “HE SAID, SHE SAID”
Communicating Between the Sexes
Topics include: Techniques to communicate with men and women, understanding why men often struggle to communicate, and what to do when communication fails.
CHAPTER 25 – “IF I TOLD YOU ONCE, I’VE TOLD YOU A THOUSAND TIMES!”
Communicating With Your Children
Topics include: Techniques to communicate with your children more effectively, getting your children to listen to you, and how to capture their hearts.
CHAPTER 26 – “SON, WHEN WILL YOU EVER LEARN?”
Communicating With Your Teenager
Topics include: Techniques to communicate with your teenager, develop a strong relationship on influence, how to help a teenager learn to make wise decisions in life–and so much more.